We will automatically form preferences.
Bestowed with preferences, it’s hard to avoid feelings of need and want.
When captured by these desires, preferences demand specific path adherence for any chance at peace.
This need not be since preferences can take a more innocent form à la My vote is for Pizza Hut, but I’m happy wherever we go.
In the “innocent form,” which is possible in all matters (though more challenging the more consequential), it can be both true that you would likely be happier if the preference is met AND true that you will also be happy if it is not.